He Denies He is Having an Affair, But I Don't Believe Him.

I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 20 years. We have not married although he bought me a ring at a pawn shop over a year ago (to be truthful I was a little hurt at the time but now I love the ring). The issue is this: for several months now I have grown increasingly convinced that he is having an affair. He denies it but I do not believe him.

Response from Daniel…..

Red flag! Red flag! Red flag!

If you're convinced that your boyfriend of 20 yrs is having an affair and his denial of such leaves in disbelief, this obviously doesn't bode well. There is a trust issue, which I consider a deal breaker. "The party is over!" "Stop right there!" Either you're paranoid or he is lying; the former is far less likely. Either way, this issue needs to be addressed further, perhaps in a couples therapy setting. The only way you could continue in the relationship will be by ignoring the warning signals gnawing in your gut. These warning signals work as your internal defense and protection system that alert you when in danger, when not safe, at the very least, proceed with caution. Don't let the ring he bought you and wishful thinking, denial and unconscious need to be loved and desired be your demise. You don't want to be asking yourself after you find out you were right, "How could I have been so foolish? Why didn't I listen to my gut?"